Rose Petals

I often ask myself: "When rose petals fall, who and what to blame?"

Is it the wind that forcefully blown the petals off?

Is it somebody that playfully and carelessly handled it?

Is it the petals that grew tired from holding on? Or

We just need to face the reality that it is the natural part of botanical cycle - from a tiny bud to a full bloom flower then slowly wither and gets dried up, fall down then finally gets decayed. But as long as the plant is deep rooted from the soil, when its season is ripe, it will start to grow new buds again. A new flower. 

I have likened this situation to some relationships.

When two lovers let go of the bond that intertwines their hearts, who and what to blame?

That "wind" can be the problems and trials that blow a test to the strength of the bond that holds them together.

When these problems and trials overwhelm them, their relationship breaks and they part ways.

That "careless somebody" can be the people that surround the lovers. He or she can be a stranger that suddenly comes into the picture then steals away the attention of the other half until it weakens their bond. He or she can be a family member or the whole family or a friend. These people often times claim to be all-knowing. They always sing advises and suggestions and overpower the decision making capabilities of the two lovers.

The "petals" are the lovers themselves. More often than not, lovers in long term relationship tend to go tired and bored to the bond. They start to not enjoy the company of each other anymore. They become passive and let love slip away. They simply let go of their cold hands and utter "come what may."

Love is a cycle as well.

It grows from a small seed of admiration. If we nurture it, it becomes a bud of love then it blooms into a sweet relationship. If we take care of it and keep it safe from external factors that will stunt its growth, it will flourish well. 

Roses don't stay colorful as times go by. The flower gets dry. Just like love.

It loses its spark at some point. But if we are deeply rooted to the core values of love, every small buds of sweetness, thoughtfulness and caring will bloom again and bring back love.